Number Three: “You Will Never Find Someone Like Me.”
When a narcissist says, “You will never find someone like me,” this is what they mean: You will never find someone who lies like I do, who manipulates like I do, who makes you question your sanity like I did. You will never find someone who takes so much while giving so little and still convinces you that it is love. “You will never find someone like me” is the one time they’re actually telling the truth because you won’t find someone like them—not because they are special in the way they want you to believe, but because most people do not spend their lives trying to break others just to feel whole. Most people do not enter relationships as a game of power. Most people do not pretend to love you just to feed off your light.
No, you won’t find someone like them again because someone like them does not show up in your life by chance. They show up when you are wounded, when you are vulnerable, when your guard is down, and you are craving connection so deeply that even cruelty disguised as closeness feels like warmth. “You will never find someone like me” is an attempt to make you look back instead of forward. They want you to chase the version of them they pretended to be in the beginning—the fantasy, the ideal, the person they never truly were. And the truth is, they do not want you to realize you do not need to find someone like them; you need to heal from someone like them. This phrase is meant to blur the line between love and trauma, to make you think the roller coaster was romance, the breadcrumbs were affection, and the abuse was passion. It’s a lie—a dangerous one. Because the longer you believe it, the longer you stay stuck in a trauma bond, longing for what? For someone who hurt you and hoping they’ll come back to fix the damage they caused. That does not happen.
Continue reading on the next page
Sharing is caring!
