There is a reason why s£x with a narcissist feels unforgettable in the beginning and unbearable in the end. It wasn’t just about pleasure; it was about power, about control, about pulling you so deep into their world that you could not tell the difference between desire and destruction. To the outside world, they may seem magnetic, seductive, even irresistible. But behind closed doors, their relationship with s£x is far more disturbing than you could ever imagine. It is dehumanizing.
Number One: They Are S£xually Hollow.
Secret 1: The Hollow S£xual Fluidity. Many people associate the term “s£xual fluid” with openness, freedom, or genuine exploration of one’s s£xuality, don’t they? But in the narcissist’s world, it does not come from that place. For them, s£xual fluidity is not about identity; it’s about utility. Many narcissists, though not all, have no real s£xual preference. They have no rooted sense of s£xual self. Instead, their s£xual identity morphs to fit the situation. If you are a man, woman, or non-binary, it does not matter. If you are younger, older, married, or vulnerable, it still does not matter. If you have a hole, they will use it. Sorry, but that is how it is. If you offer them praise, they will perform for you. If you worship them, they will become whatever you want them to be until they drain you dry.
This is why their s£xuality feels hollow. They are not being real. Their passion is not rooted in desire; it is shapeshifting, just like the rest of their personality. One day, they are a dominant lover who takes control; the next day, they are soft and submissive, pretending to need you. But it is never coming from a true place, as I said, because there is no true s£xual self. That is why, no matter how wild or intense the s£x gets, there is always something missing. There is no depth, no soul—just a mimicry of what intimacy is supposed to look like and feel like.
And yet, some of you will ask, “Then why did it feel so intense in the beginning? Why did it feel like the best s£x of my life?” That is because they have practiced over and over with different bodies, different minds. They have used people like toys in a lab to perfect their technique. They aren’t in tune with their own bodies; they are in tune with yours. They study your breathing, your movements, your size, and they mirror it back until you feel seen, touched, and understood. But it’s a lie. They are not connecting, are they? They are collecting data, tactics, and tricks.
And that brings us to Secret Number Two: S£x is Just a Performance and a Distraction.
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