But if you care less, if you walk away and do not look back, if you grieve in silence—as I always say—and focus on your healing, that is when they go mad. That is when they start lurking on your stories, messaging your friends, or posting cryptic things online, trying to provoke you in any way they can.
You may have seen this, and you truly start to move on in your life. And when you begin a new chapter, that is when all of a sudden, the narcissist will pop up. They will make their presence known spiritually, energetically, or even physically.
What triggers that? Well, they are energy vampires. They are predators, and they sense it. They have that predatory intuition when they feel you are actually closing the chapter and letting go. They feel a desire—a drive—to reel you back in. Ultimately, it’s all about what I just explained: it’s power. It’s about feeling important.
When you remove them from your nervous system, they feel like they are disappearing. Because for a narcissist, being forgotten is worse than being hated, worse than death. Your silence hurts more than your anger. Your indifference wounds them deeper than your rejection because indifference means they do not matter anymore. And that is it for them.
For someone whose entire life is built on the illusion of importance, that is unbearable. Here is what is important to know: they live in a cycle of survival, not growth. So when you stop surviving with them, when you stop shrinking yourself to soothe their ego, when you finally step out of their emotional matrix, that is what makes you dangerous to them.
It is your emotional detachment. It is that inner calm that says, “You do not get access to me anymore.” That is what ends the story for them. They do not know what to do with that because their entire script requires your suffering, your begging. They need your reactions. So when none of that comes, when you refuse to play, they really fall apart. Because if they cannot control you in any way, then they cannot define you. And if they cannot define you, then they have to face who they are without you.
And that is the one thing they’re not willing to do because they’re nothing without you.
Conclusion: Breaking Free from the Narcissist
So yes, let them chase, but do not ever let that chase fool you into believing it is real. Because if someone only wants you when you are gone, they never really wanted you. They wanted the feeling of getting to you, and when they get it, they’re done.
Let them run in circles. You’re not the lesson they get to keep learning from. You are the one that got away. Never look back. That is what I want you to know, what I want you to embody, and what I want you to carry forward.
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