Do you have a narcissistic partner? Your connection appears to be troublesome and toxic, and you wish to break free from the narcissist’s grasp. You started using the no-contact rule, which allows you to breathe freely without their presence.
If you suddenly implement this rule, your narcissistic partner will most likely think that you are selfish and a coward. However, cutting connections with the narcissist is not just an option; it is the only way to make them crazy about you. What happens when you suddenly go no contact with a narcissist? Will the narcissist resort to violence to win you back? Will they find new prey to replace you instead?
12 Reasons Why Going No Contact Will Drive Narcissists Crazy
Number 1: You Are the Source of Their Narcissistic Supply.
You are the source of their narcissistic supply. People who are narcissistic need adoration and attention. In a relationship, they want someone to make them feel good. Narcissists desire your energy and emotional attributes to make them feel alive. If their partners enforce no contact, narcissists can’t progress, which drains their power.
Number 2: They Feel Betrayed.
If they are alone, narcissists feel betrayed by their partners. They are possessive of their partners, not out of love, but because their partner makes them feel superior. Suppose you are in a relationship with a narcissist and suddenly terminate your relationship with them. These people lack self-reflection, so instead of asking themselves what they did wrong, they will blame you for everything that happened. They will most likely feel backstabbed.
Number 3: It Hurts Their Ego.
Narcissists are egotistical individuals who want you to adore and admire them because they are full of themselves. These people stay in relationships not because they love you, but because they want you to invest your energy in them to make them happy. So if you leave them unexpectedly, it will hurt their ego and make them hate you. Some narcissists may pursue their partners after they have left them because they want to rekindle their passion for abusing you—not because they realize that they love you.
Number 4: Narcissists Feel Ashamed of Themselves.
One of the narcissist’s biggest fears is feeling embarrassed. They have their own set of criteria for what makes them happy, requiring someone to uphold those standards so that others will respect them. If their partner leaves so abruptly, they would feel humiliated by losing the game.
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Number 5: Narcissists Feel That It Is Not Their Loss.
If their partners establish a no-contact rule, a frequent narcissist’s response is, “It isn’t my loss.” They will comfort themselves with the idea that it is not their problem, but rather the loss of the partner for leaving. However, deep inside, it hurts the narcissist for not leaving first.
Number 6: Narcissists Want Revenge.
When you cut off contact with a narcissist, they will feel abandoned and go insane wanting you back. These individuals will find a way to contact you, no matter how many times you block them. They will shower you with attention, not because they love you, but because they want you back to get revenge. Partners who return to the narcissist will be remorseful; it is undoubtedly an opportunity for the narcissist to abuse them.
Number 7: They Will Not Forget About You.
If you do not contact the narcissist, they will not forget about you or neglect you. Narcissists are doomed because they are unaware of their actions. The thought of someone leaving them would upset them.
Number 8: Fear of Abandonment.
Abandonment not only pains narcissists but also drives them insane. Their greatest dread is the fear of abandonment and rejection by the people they expect to stay. Narcissistic individuals often grow up with family abandonment issues. They do not want to be left behind; they love to do the leaving. They will leave you behind like an old broken toy when they are done with you.
Number 9: They Feel Powerless.
A narcissist requires the power of being superior to others. As a result, they control their partners and do what they want in their relationships. So if their partners go no contact, the power swings away from them, rendering narcissists helpless, which infuriates and drives them crazy.
Number 10: You Are Their Emotional Punching Bag.
Narcissists thrive in one-sided relationships. They want complete control over their partners. If they have frustrations, they want their partners to absorb their negativity to feel better. If their lovers go no contact, narcissists will feel hopeless.
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Number 11: They Need Someone to Fill Them with Their Fantastic Ideas.
Narcissists have unrealistic expectations of their partners and relationships. If their partner leaves, the illusion of perfection may cause them to feel disconnected and face a harsh reality. This reality means there is no one to manipulate, no one to blame, no one to burst their toxicity, and no one to use, which will drive the narcissist insane. They will do their best to win their partner back, but the no-contact action will defeat the narcissist.
Number 12: They Don’t Love You, But They Need You.
Love is a decision, not an emotion. Narcissists struggle to make that decision. They focus on loving themselves, forgetting to appreciate those who love them. If their lovers decide not to contact them, they will lose a significant part of themselves.
What do narcissists need? They need only one thing: narcissistic supply—someone to control and abuse. Because narcissists don’t love their partners, they may resort to violence and even harm them to win their partner back.
It is difficult to live with a narcissist, as staying with them would inflict much more damage on their partners. The purpose of no contact is not just to drive a narcissist insane, but also to provide you with mental healing. There is a distinction between loving ourselves to feel better again and loving ourselves even if we hurt others.
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