Narcissists will do many things and keep working on their goal to maintain their target for as long as possible. Here’s the truth: just as much as a narcissist wants to hurt someone, their desire to keep that person by their side is also very important. Why? Mainly for narcissistic supply. Of course, the narcissist wouldn’t stay for one more minute if they didn’t have that supply. They can’t continue their lives without it, whether it is praise, affection, power over others, or hurting other people.
For most narcissists, the more supply they can get from someone, the more likely they are to stay in the relationship. This also includes any connections the narcissist might be able to make, money, or other resources. Depending on how many resources they can obtain, they may either let go of their target or hold on to them for as long as possible. If narcissists can keep taking advantage of you and getting what they want whenever they want, they will not move on.
Sadly, there are people who don’t know how to say no or reject a narcissist, and they may remain trapped under the narcissist’s control for a long time. Here’s how narcissists always keep someone around: they will only leave once they have secured another person by their side.
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- Narcissists Know No Boundaries.
Narcissists are the type of people who have a strong sense of self-preservation, and they make it clear what their boundaries are. The problem is their lack of regard for the boundaries of others. You can test this by setting a clear boundary and being serious about it. If you are strict, they will have a difficult time convincing you to adjust or remove your boundaries. Once they realize you won’t compromise, they may slowly leave you, hoping you’ve learned your lesson and will return to them submissively. As long as the narcissist can continue to take advantage of you, there’s no reason for them to go anywhere. If you don’t know how to refuse them, they will not want to lose you. - Your Dependency on the Narcissist.
Dependency is the second reason they keep you around. If you think you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, consider how much you depend on them. Narcissists like to make their victims dependent on them in any way possible. They do this to isolate you from the world, slowly reducing your confidence. Many who have been ostracized by a narcissist become emotionally dependent on them. They weaken your emotional and psychological strength, making you doubt your sanity and confusing you. They create a facade that they need your help, leading you to rely on them for decision-making. This dependency allows them to manipulate you for their own benefit while you become weaker. - The Amount of Emotional Support You Provide.
How much emotional support are you willing to give to the narcissist? You might have been emotionally or physically abused, yet still believe the narcissist is the best thing that ever happened to you. In this case, the narcissist thinks you love them. They know you are enchanted by their love-bombing tactics, which obscures your awareness of their manipulation. They will be reluctant to leave you as long as they sense that you still care, as this indicates there is still some supply they can extract from you. The narcissist needs you to believe there is still hope or a future with them, prompting you to maintain the relationship.
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Narcissists want to be free to come and go without anyone questioning their behavior. They wish to abuse and control you while enjoying themselves. If you establish strong, healthy boundaries and are unafraid to say no or call them out, the narcissist will likely lose interest, even though you may be a good source of supply. They will stop pursuing you once they realize you won’t compromise on boundaries. Hold firm to your boundaries, and the narcissist will lose their grip on you.
Finally, once you stop viewing the narcissist through rose-tinted glasses, they will know their game is over. When emotional ties are broken, it becomes much harder for them to extract supply from you. They will start to move on and look for someone else. To avoid retaliation from the narcissist, you must cut ties and stop connecting with them.
Conclusion.
Narcissists often believe it’s their right to choose which relationships to keep. When we flip the script and reject them, it knocks them off balance and makes them feel ashamed. If you encounter a narcissist who has been in a long-term relationship, it’s likely not because they have suddenly learned to love; it just means they have found someone easier to manipulate. Always stay alert when it comes to narcissists.
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