If you have been in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, you know how painful it can be to watch them belittle you. They may pretend to love you, but they are actually out to take advantage of you, showing little concern for how their actions hurt you. It’s important to realize that narcissists aren’t your friends and certainly can’t be trusted as lovers.
If you’re wondering how to identify a narcissist, I’ve compiled a list of six things they will never do. Keep in mind that this is not a complete list, but these six points are major red flags that can help you determine whether someone can truly be your friend.
1. The Narcissist Will Never Apologize
Narcissists do not want to admit they have done anything wrong. You must accept this fact because they will never change—not for you or anyone else. Unlike healthy people, they don’t care if they hurt others or make mistakes. Instead, a narcissist may try to appease you with gifts or nice gestures, hoping you’ll forget the issue. They will not sincerely apologize or take responsibility for their actions. Instead, they often shift the blame onto others or make you feel guilty for their behavior.
2. A Narcissist Will Never Be Honest
A narcissist will never be open about their feelings and intentions. They believe the world revolves around them and that their way is the best. They will take advantage of your dependency by lying, defaming you, and ignoring your feelings. Even when confronted, they will deny allegations or shift blame. They will use emotional manipulation to make you feel guilty about conflicts, leading you to believe that every problem is your fault.
3. They Will Never Forgive
In any issue, narcissists will point out everything that makes you feel guilty. Even if you apologize, they may forgive you superficially but will bring up past issues whenever another conflict arises. This tactic makes you feel powerless. When you break up with a narcissist, you may be surprised by their persistence in trying to lure you back, often by invoking sympathy or anger.
4. They Will Never Be Loyal
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You can never count on a narcissist to be faithful. Their priorities are centered around themselves. You will not receive the validation or satisfaction you seek from them. Narcissists fear intimacy and vulnerability, often testing relationships to find breaking points. Even if they appear to care, they can cheat, steal, and abandon you.
5. They Will Never Love You Honestly
A narcissist will never love someone sincerely. They are ruthless and unpredictable, exerting control over relationships. They may maintain communication with others while still involved with you, using difficult times to tear you down. Their inability to develop empathy means they can never genuinely love anyone.
6. The Narcissist Will Never Show Empathy
What stands out most about narcissists is their lack of empathy. They believe they deserve preferential treatment and expect you to comply with their wishes. While they may seem empathetic, their concern is often self-serving. A narcissist’s empathy is primarily about anticipating their own needs, and they will respond aggressively if they feel threatened.
Conclusion
Empathy is crucial for forming and maintaining relationships, but narcissists lack this capacity, making it difficult for them to connect with others. If you have a narcissistic partner, you will eventually see their true colors, regardless of how nice they may appear at times.
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