The way a narcissist makes you feel is often a reflection of how they themselves feel, and this isn’t accidental. Even if you just inadvertently hurt their ego, they’ll still retaliate. So, don’t be surprised. In order to make you feel as bad as they do, narcissists will try to slander you relentlessly. This helps them alleviate their own negative feelings, which is beneficial for them. They try to be angry or upset with you because that is how they feel, and if you’re triggered, that’s exactly what they want. They try to make you angry, envious, or desperate by doing anything in their power to take you down. They try to make you anxious, afraid, guilty, and ashamed. They know how to evoke those feelings in you because they have experienced them themselves.
If you inflict enough damage to a narcissist, it will cause a narcissistic injury, which will be followed by narcissistic rage. After that, they will try to get back at you by any means necessary. Remember that narcissists hurt you because they are hurting and unhappy with their own lives. It’s not necessarily personal against you; they would likely do the same to others. As a general rule, it doesn’t have much to do with you, which is why their behavior might seem disproportionate. They’ll do anything to make themselves feel better. They are the type who will turn small troubles into big ones and refuse to calm down until they get what they want. For some reason, they will make things seem much more serious than they really are because they’ve been hurt, no matter how insignificant it may seem. This gives them a chance to release pent-up emotions.
In response, if you offend a narcissist, he or she will go out of their way to hurt you because they can’t allow even the slightest insult to their pride. Narcissists are often unable to control their own emotions, so they feel the need to rise to the top at your expense. This is exactly what I want you to know: whatever you feel after an interaction with them is likely how they want you to feel, and it’s most likely also how they feel because they’re reacting to your perceived insult. They will try to bring you down to their level by creating chaos. It’s because they’re enraged that they won’t let you be at ease. They can’t stand the idea of you being happy and having a good time, and this is because they’re miserable and depressed in their own way. So, they won’t allow you to have anything that they don’t. Their pride is being chipped away, so they have to drag you down too. As soon as they do this, you should know that they’re hurting inside. They must give you an excuse to “cry with them.
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