Let me tell you, when they get older, they don’t want to be seen as cold. Oh no, they refuse to accept it. So what do they do? They flock to younger crowds. They hang around young people like their lives depend on it, trying to latch onto that energy, that spark they used to have.
Here’s the kicker: they’ll never tell you this, but they have a hard time with what we call the midlife crisis. They desperately need that ego boost, that feeling like they’re still the best, still in control, still great. They can’t stand the thought of being seen as aging or irrelevant. They can’t stand growing old, being sick, or being weak. To them, that’s the ultimate failure. And when their looks start to betray them, oh man, they’re in full-blown panic mode. They’ll do anything to keep that image intact.
But as time goes by, there’s something else that happens: they start burning bridges, and I mean burning them to the ground. The older they get, the more enemies they accumulate. You see, a narcissist doesn’t leave behind a trail of goodwill; they leave a trail of wreckage as they age, and their list of people they’ve hurt, people they’ve betrayed, just keeps growing. And let me tell you, those enemies are still out there, and the narcissist knows it. They have to keep an eye over their shoulder, wondering if someone from their past might just come back to get them.
But you know what? It doesn’t end there. Oh no. As the narcissist gets older and the pool of fresh supply dries up, they start thinking about their old supply. You know, those people they once used, manipulated, and discarded. Yeah, those people will come crawling back. They’ll try to reconnect, and it doesn’t matter if it’s been 5 years or 10 years; they’ll reach out. Why? Because the options are fewer now, and if they can’t get what they want from new supply, they’ll turn to what they know. They’ll try you.
You’re probably sitting there thinking, “Wait a minute, I haven’t heard from this person in ages. Why are they reaching out now?” Let me tell you, it’s because they’re desperate. Their charm is wearing thin, their looks aren’t what they used to be, and they need that validation again. They’ll test the waters, hoping you’ve softened, hoping you’ve forgotten how they used to treat you. They’ll wait for you to forget about the hurt, to stop being angry, to stop being strong. But don’t fall for it. Don’t be fooled. They’ve changed, but so have you. You’re not the same person you were when they first pulled you into their game. You’ve grown, you’ve learned, and you’re not about to fall back into that trap.
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