That’s the thing with narcissists: they need instant gratification, constant pleasure. And when they age, when they can’t keep the wheel of desire spinning, they crumble. It’s a bitter reality. They may have lost their family over the years, their children. They don’t want to be around anymore because they remember—the neglect, the manipulation, the absence. And let me tell you, kids are sharp. They know who was there for them and who wasn’t.
So what does a narcissist do when their family starts pulling away? They try to buy their kids’ affection. They’ll spoil them, try to keep them close with money, but that doesn’t work for long. And if they don’t have that, if they don’t have a child willing to put up with them for a check, the narcissist is left with no one—no one but whoever’s left, whoever hasn’t yet been pushed away by their poison.
And those poor souls—those people who are still around—they become the narcissist’s caregivers, the ones who take the brunt of the abuse. Eventually, that narcissist’s life becomes a miserable existence of loneliness and torment. They lose their zest for life; they don’t have the will to fight. They just want out. “I just want to die,” they’ll say again. It’s the sad, inevitable end for many narcissists.
But here’s the real kicker: the narcissist doesn’t just age gracefully. Oh no, they’ve lived fast, they’ve lived hard, and it’s all going to catch up with them. All those years of pushing their bodies to the limit—drinking, using drugs, hopping from one partner to another—it’s all a recipe for disaster. They live a stressful, unhealthy life, and as time marches on, their bodies break down. Every narcissist I’ve known, even the young ones, has had some kind of health issue—high blood pressure, chronic pain, stress-induced conditions.
It’s the toll that years of abuse, both on themselves and others, take on the body. And no matter how hard they try to hide it, eventually, their body shows the wear and tear. It’s all going to come crashing down one way or another.
And here’s the truth: this doesn’t end well for them. It’s a slow, painful collapse. They lose their family, they lose their youth, they lose their power, they lose the very things they thought defined them. And when that happens, they become a shell of who they once were—angry, bitter, grasping for control that no longer exists. And anyone who’s left in their world is going to bear the weight of it all.
So if you’re around a narcissist as they age, beware. They’ll look for someone to blame, someone to take out their frustration on, and that someone just might be you. So ask yourself: is it worth sticking around to watch them slowly fall apart? Because trust me, as they get older, the abuse will only get worse. It’s a harsh reality, but one that every narcissist must face as time catches up with them.
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