Number four: everyone leaves, so get them before they get you. That’s the type of world that narcissists and psychopaths live in—a dog-eats-dog world. She created a monster who destroys love to prove it is not real. His mother didn’t just abandon him; she abandoned him emotionally, spiritually, and energetically. Maybe she was physically present but emotionally absent. She may have praised him one minute and rejected him the next. She gave him love only when he performed well; that’s why it was performance-based. He developed one core belief: love is not safe. Now, every time you get close, he’s triggered because the deeper the intimacy, the greater the threat. His nervous system does not register closeness as safety; it registers it as danger. So he cheats first, lies first, rages first—because he wants to be the one who ruins it before you do. His whole life, he has been haunted by the fear that people will eventually leave. That women will abandon him like she did. Now he lives in a cycle of betrayal, manipulation, and sabotage because if he destroys the relationship, at least he is in control.
What the recent tape showed us was not just rage but an extreme urge to dominate, to own, to take power before someone takes it from him. It was monstrous, but the monster did not start there; it started in a childhood where connection was a weapon, not a gift.
Misogyny and Revenge
Number five: women are to be controlled, not understood. The monster was trained to see you as a threat, not as a partner. He did not learn emotional safety from women; he learned emotional chaos. His mother did not teach him how to respect women; she taught him how to fear them. It’s quite ironic. Every time she used silent treatment, slammed doors, played the victim, or manipulated him with guilt, he made a mental note: women are dangerous. Now he treats you the way he wished he could have treated her—controlling, silencing, and dominating. That’s called projecting the mother wound onto you. That’s one of the many roots of misogyny. He micromanages how you dress, accuses you of cheating when you are five minutes late, and threatens to leave when you express a boundary. Why? Because control is the only way to feel some sort of safety in his twisted world. Understanding a woman means opening his heart, and he did that once to his mother, and it nearly destroyed him. So he does not try to understand you; he tries to manage you, gauge you, and own you.
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