He will say you have changed. He will say you are no longer the sweet girl he fell in love with. He will say you have become too modern, too bossy, too masculine. But all that really means is you have stopped accepting crumbs. And for a man who has built his self-worth on being the one in control, that is the ultimate threat.
And let me tell you the truth he will never say out loud: when you walk away from such a man, when you stop needing him, when you start thriving without his help, he will feel like a ghost in his own life. He will scroll through your pictures, watch your stories, ask mutual friends about you, but he won’t reach out because his ego won’t allow it.
And even if he does, it won’t be to take accountability. It will be to reassert dominance, to see if you’re still there, if there is still a chance he can keep you small. But you won’t, because once you have seen the truth, once you have felt the ache of loving someone who thinks your emotional needs are G.a.y, once you have cried alone while he laughed with his boys, once you have begged for affection and been met with silence, you do not go back. You grow out of it. You rise. You reclaim yourself.
And he stays the same—trapped in his ego, in his performance, surrounded by his enablers, applauded by fools too proud to evolve, too empty to love, too fragile to ever be what you needed. Because helping you did not make him G.a.y; it would have made him human. And that’s something he never had the courage to become.
That’s what you have to fully accept and understand if you want to heal from this kind of disastrous experience. I am doing a free workshop on June 5th, which happens to be my birthday. It’s going to happen in three chapters. If you want to book your spot right now before we close it, click the link in the description, and I will see you there. Until then, let the healing begin.
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