Another thing that happens is they try to act like the person you always wanted them to be. This is one of the strangest parts. When they realize they cannot control you anymore, they suddenly try to become the perfect version of themselves. They’ll give you everything you have ever asked for or wanted, but that’s not real change; that is camouflaging. They may go to therapy just to prove a point, start using healing words, post deep quotes, talk about growth, act humble, copy your style, and try to be spiritual and peaceful. But you can see through it now because you’re indestructible. They’re not doing it for themselves; they are doing it for attention, to win, to make you second-guess yourself.
But the truth is—and you have to accept it—none of it lasts because deep down they have not changed. They cannot change overnight; they’re still driven by the same fear, the same control, and the same empty hunger. This fake version of them cannot survive for long. You just have to wait; eventually, the mask slips again, and when it does, they fall into a deeper hole than before because now they know even pretending does not work anymore.
Rewriting the Past to Feel Powerful
Next, they go back in time and try to rewrite the past. Narcissists cannot let go of the past, especially if it makes them look like a failure. So when you become undefeatable, they start rewriting your story in their mind. They tell people you were toxic, that you were the problem. You know the game—they act like they dumped you first, creating a new version of the truth where they were always the victim and you were always the monster.
They may send you old pictures, bring up good memories, and try to remind you of the good old times. They will act like things were not that bad, that you overreacted, that you misremembered things, that it was all just a misunderstanding. For what purpose? To trigger your trauma bonding and cognitive dissonance. This is their way of time traveling—not to heal, but to erase the reality where they lost. They are trying to erase the truth and paint over it with a story that makes them feel powerful again. But deep inside, they know what really happened. They do not want to admit it, and that knowing eats them alive.
The Final Blow: Seeing You Thrive
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