The Last Dirty Move a Narcissist Makes Before Final Discard

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The false reconciliation trap typically unfolds in stages, and each stage is designed to pull you deeper into their web.

Stage 1: The Shocking Turnaround
It starts with them approaching you with what seems like genuine remorse and a desire to change. This usually happens after a particularly bad fight or a period of silent treatment. They may write you a long text or email, show up unexpectedly with a grand gesture, or ask to have a serious conversation. The key here is that their approach feels different—more mature, more self-aware than anything you have ever experienced with them before.

Stage 2: The Vulnerability Performance
They share things with you they have never shared before—perhaps their childhood trauma, insecurities, or fears about relationships. They make themselves seem vulnerable and human in a way that makes you feel like you are finally seeing the real them. This vulnerability feels like intimacy, like you’re finally connecting on a deeper level.

Stage 3: The Future Fantasy
They start making plans with you—real, concrete plans. They may suggest moving in together, discuss marriage, or talk about having children. They paint a picture of a future that includes everything you have ever wanted from the relationship.

Stage 4: The Honeymoon Period
For a few weeks or even months, they actually follow through on some of their promises. They are attentive, affectionate, and communicative. They remember important dates, ask about your day, and show interest in your hobbies and friends.

Stage 5: The Gradual Withdrawal
This happens almost imperceptibly. They start pulling back. It is subtle at first; they may be a little less responsive to texts or show slightly less enthusiasm about your plans together. You probably won’t notice it immediately because you are still basking in the glow of how good things have been.

Stage 6: The Devastating Discard
Then comes the final blow. They do not just leave; they obliterate everything they have built up. They may disappear without warning or tell you they have been seeing someone else the entire time. The discard is swift, brutal, and designed to leave you questioning everything.

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