Now, listen to this like your life depends on it, because for some, it just might. The narcissist does think about you, but not because you were the one who got away. They think about you because you got free. That’s not love; that’s obsession. That’s ego trying to fill a hole it dug for itself. And here’s the freedom in that truth: you are not responsible for their emptiness. You’re not the answer to their chaos. You’re not the missing piece to their pain. You’re the one who walked away and stayed gone, and that, dear soul, is power.
Let’s break the last illusion: can the narcissist change? Maybe, but rarely. True change requires surrender, repentance, and reflection—all things the narcissist avoids like fire. Even if they show signs of growth, be cautious. Often it’s a costume stitched together for survival—legal trouble, public shame, lost supply—but inside, the same machinery hums, built on control, oiled with manipulation, driven by fear. So if you’ve been waiting for closure, planning for some grand apology or awakening, let that go. You’re not standing in the way of their growth; you’re simply not part of their game anymore.
You don’t owe them another chapter. You don’t owe them your hope, your healing, or your validation. You don’t need them to tell you your story ends well, because it already does. You’re breathing without their weight. You’re laughing without their script. You’ve become the author of your own peace, and that is a miracle worth guarding. So let them wonder; let them spin their tales and cast their shadows. You’re not in their world anymore, and you don’t have to look back. Walk on, beloved. Walk free.
Now let’s pause and talk about something tender—something subtle but dangerous. Staying emotionally tied to the very thing that broke you. You might not speak to the narcissist anymore. You may have blocked the number, deleted the photos, might even have changed your routine to avoid crossing paths. But if you’re still wondering what they’re doing, still checking their feed, still letting their name stir up emotion in your chest, then the cord isn’t fully cut. And that’s okay; that’s honest. But it’s not freedom.
Because every glance, every silent question, every heartbeat given to a ghost, feeds them. They don’t need your praise; they just need your attention. Even your pain is fuel to the narcissist because it proves they still have a piece of you. That’s why silence alone isn’t enough. You’ve got to guard the gates of your mind—not just no contact, but no connection, no emotional investment. No seat reserved in your spirit for someone who only came to conquer, not to care. This isn’t about pretending they never existed; it’s about choosing not to carry them anymore. It’s about looking forward without turning around. It’s about saying, “You are no longer the center of my story; I am.
The Silent Collapse of a Narcissist: The Hidden Signs You Might Not Notice
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