This was the hardest truth for me to accept.
I had always believed that with enough love, people could change. That patience was strength. That empathy was the answer.
But with narcissists, love becomes a weapon against you.
The more you give, the more they take. The more you try, the more they let you carry the emotional weight of the entire relationship.
They don’t see your love as a gift. They see it as weakness — and they will exploit it.
3. Narcissists Don’t Want Accountability — They Want Control of the Narrative
If you confront them with something they’ve done wrong, they’ll either:
- Deny it ever happened.
- Blame you for causing it.
- Accuse you of being “too sensitive.”
- Bring up your past mistakes to redirect the blame.
No matter what you say, the conversation becomes about your reaction, not their behavior.
Trying to fix a narcissist means constantly walking on eggshells — carefully phrasing things, tiptoeing around triggers, censoring yourself to avoid “setting them off.”
But here’s the reality: you didn’t break them, and it’s not your job to fix them.
4. The Longer You Stay, the More You Lose Yourself
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