Narcissistic supply is any kind of emotional reaction—love, anger, praise, fear, even tears.
When they run low on supply (perhaps their new source isn’t working out), they often revisit past sources—especially ones who once gave them intense emotional investment.
They don’t care if the attention is positive or negative.
- You yell? They win.
- You cry? They win.
- You respond at all? They win.
That’s why they reach out just enough to stir your emotions. It’s a test: “Do I still have access to you?”
If the answer is yes, they’re back in control.
4. Your Healing Threatens Their Illusion
To a narcissist, breakups aren’t endings. They’re pauses.
They assume you’ll always be waiting in emotional limbo. When you start moving forward—building boundaries, falling in love with life again—it exposes a truth they don’t want to face:
They weren’t as powerful as they thought.
Your healing threatens the entire illusion of superiority they built around themselves. Because if you’re happy without them, it means:
- You were stronger than they thought.
- They weren’t irreplaceable.
- You’re not broken like they wanted you to believe.
That truth is unbearable to them.
5. They Want to Rewrite the Ending
Narcissists have a strong need to control the narrative. If you left them, or if they treated you so poorly that you went no-contact, that loss feels humiliating to them.
So when they come back, it’s often not about rebuilding anything—it’s about reclaiming the upper hand.
They want to:
- Love-bomb you again.
- Get you back emotionally invested.
- Then discard you on their terms.
It’s not about closure—it’s about revenge.
They don’t want you healed. They want you dependent. Again.
6. They Hate Being Forgotten
There’s something terrifying to a narcissist about being irrelevant. The idea that you’ve moved on without them? That you stopped talking about them? That their name no longer holds emotional weight?
That is their worst nightmare.
So when they sense they’ve become a footnote in your story instead of the main character… they reinsert themselves. Not because they miss you. But because they miss the power they had over you.
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