I remember the first time it happened to me.
I had finally made peace with it all. No more overthinking, no more stalking their socials, no more dreaming about “what could’ve been.”
Then, out of nowhere: “Hope you’re doing okay. You crossed my mind today.”
And just like that, the progress I had made began to wobble.
But this time, I paused. I remembered what had happened before—the cycles, the hurt, the manipulation disguised as love. And I realized:
They don’t miss me. They miss my vulnerability.
They don’t care how I am. They care whether I’ll respond.
So I didn’t.
And you know what? The silence that followed told me everything I needed to know.
What to Do When They Come Back
✅ 1. Pause Before You Respond
Don’t act out of emotion. Narcissists thrive on emotional reactions. Wait. Breathe. Reflect.
✅ 2. Ask: “What Do I Actually Need Right Now?”
If the answer is peace, clarity, closure—you won’t find it through them. That comes from within.
✅ 3. Revisit the Reality
Read old journal entries, text screenshots, or messages you sent to friends when you were still hurting. Remind yourself why you left.
✅ 4. Set or Reinforce Boundaries
Silence is a boundary. You don’t owe them access, explanations, or engagement.
✅ 5. Protect Your Healing
Healing is sacred. Don’t let a moment of weakness reopen a door you spent months trying to close.
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