They’re skilled at making you doubt your own feelings, but these subtle cues reveal that their apology is more about controlling the situation than showing real remorse. When their body doesn’t match their words, it’s a clear sign that you’re dealing with manipulation, not empathy. Don’t let their act fool you; watch for the hidden signals.
Finally, we’re down to number eight: to manipulate therapy sessions. In a therapist’s office, narcissists will fake emotional awareness, throwing out lines like, “I validate your feelings,” while sneakily checking if the therapist is buying it. It’s emotional manipulation disguised as maturity.
Psychologist Dr. Robin Stern, author of The Gaslight Effect, calls this behavior strategic empathy—a calculated performance to shift blame and earn sympathy. You start doubting yourself because they’re so convincing in front of others, and you fear speaking your truth in therapy might just backfire. It’s not healing; it’s a hostage situation with throw pillows. Therapy should feel safe, but for you, it can feel like stepping into a courtroom where the narcissist plays the misunderstood saint. Meanwhile, you’re left wondering if anyone will truly see the manipulation behind the performance. Their goal is to leave you feeling confused, unsure of what’s real, and questioning your own sanity. It’s a twisted game of emotional chess, and you might be losing without even knowing it.
So the next time a narcissist gives you their best “I’m so caring” act, pay attention to their body language. It’s often the little things that tell you the real story. Trust your instincts, and let their actions—not just their words—guide your understanding.
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