This may sound crazy, but you were not randomly selected by a narcissist to be their victim. You were specifically placed in their path by the universe, by God, as their karmic consequence. Understanding this truth can be liberating. You were not weak, naive, or unlucky. You were the universe’s response to their actions, choices, and energy. You were their karma walking into their life in human form.
Now, you may argue, “Well, was I a sacrificial lamb? It was really unjust and painful. Why did it happen to me?” And that’s why I’m creating this “Understanding Your Role as Karma” episode. I want to help you understand what took me such a long time to comprehend—the purpose behind it all. You were that narcissist’s karma, but that narcissist was also a catalyst in your process of spiritual awakening. This is a profound truth that needs a deeper understanding of your experience with them.
Reason 1: Exposing Their False Self
Reason number one: you were sent to expose their false self while their presence awakened your authentic one. You know how narcissists spend enormous energy maintaining a carefully constructed false image. They manipulate situations, control narratives, and exploit others to preserve their facade. But what about you? You were sent into their life as the person who would see through it all. Your authentic nature, your ability to love genuinely, and your emotional intelligence created a stark contrast to their performance. Without even trying, you exposed the hollowness beneath their mask. Your mere presence made their false self unstable because real recognizes real, and fake cannot coexist with authentic for long.
While you were serving as their karmic mirror, they were simultaneously serving as your catalyst for authentic self-discovery. Their attempts to dim your light through devaluation and criticism forced you to find your own inner validation. Every time they tried to convince you that you were too much, too sensitive, or too demanding, you were being pushed toward recognizing your true worth. The narcissist’s inability to appreciate your authentic self became the very thing that taught you to value it yourself. Their rejection of your emotional needs forced you to become your own emotional caretaker. Their failure to see your value compelled you to discover it independently. While you were their karma, exposing their false self, they were your catalyst revealing your authentic self. It was a spiritual evolution.
But don’t get me wrong: you don’t have to put that narcissist on a pedestal and worship their ego. They are not a great person or a saint in disguise. That’s not what I’m saying. What I’m saying is that this is the reason why you experienced what you experienced and what the hidden purpose behind it all was. Something had to happen in your life to shake you awake and help you realize that you are worthy. When you go through such a horrible experience with a narcissist, you ultimately realize that no, you don’t deserve that kind of treatment. You don’t have to tolerate abuse. You need to love yourself. You need to find yourself, and you need to go through the process of homecoming. That is what they unintentionally initiated by being in a relationship with such a toxic individual.
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