My other favorite question is: why do people who experience narcissistic abuse exhibit hoarding behavior? You see, hoarding isn’t just about having a lot of stuff; it’s often a complex response to deep emotional wounds inflicted by narcissistic abuse. When I see a mess, I become paralyzed by the thought of picking up and sorting out what to do.
1. Emotional Attachment to Objects
Have you ever noticed how some people form deep emotional bonds with their possessions? For victims of narcissistic abuse, this isn’t just about having a lot of stuff; it’s often a way of coping with the emotional turmoil they’ve endured. Some of the things I like to hoard or hold on to are dishes, teapots, teacups—both cups actually broken. Picture this: after enduring constant invalidation and manipulation from their abuser, these possessions become more than just objects. They are lifelines providing a sense of comfort and security amidst chaos. It’s as if each item holds a piece of solace, a reminder that they are worthy of love and validation. This emotional attachment runs deep, serving as a shield against the pain inflicted by the abuser. In a way, it’s understandable. When the people who are supposed to care for you fail to provide the support you need, turning to objects for solace seems like the only option. So, the next time you see someone holding on tightly to their possessions, remember that there’s often a deeper emotional struggle at play. Perhaps a little empathy and understanding can go a long way in helping them heal from the scars of their past.
2. Sense of Control
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