Narcissistic abuse can deeply impact the way survivors communicate, especially through texting. The emotional manipulation and constant criticism from a narcissist leave lasting scars that affect how you express yourself, even after the relationship ends. In this article, we’ll explore five common texting habits developed by narcissistic abuse survivors, why they happen, and how the trauma of the relationship alters your communication patterns. Understanding these behaviors is the first step toward healing and reclaiming your voice.
Texting Habit #1: Sending Long Paragraphs
As a narcissistic abuse survivor, you send lengthy texts because you’ve been conditioned to over-explain yourself. You don’t want to be misunderstood, which is why you go into such depth. You try to ensure the other person understands what you’re saying and your intentions. Why do you feel the need to convey your message so desperately? Because the narcissist brainwashed you into believing your thoughts and emotions were irrational. They constantly criticized, judged, and put you down for expressing your true self. Now, this has become your trauma response. You anxiously respond and pour your heart out, hoping it will make sense to them. You can’t just say one or two things and move on—you feel panic if you don’t explain everything.
I used to do this all the time. I would endlessly explain myself and share unnecessary details because I feared being judged or misunderstood.
Texting Habit #2: Hyper analyzing Words and Messages
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