Never judge or bully someone because of their unusual mannerisms; they may have developed these habits as a result of narcissistic abuse. Such abuse can leave people feeling anxious, insecure, and on edge. Their reactions or expressions might seem odd to outsiders, but it’s important to remember that these mannerisms are often coping mechanisms shaped by their experiences.
Today, we’ll take a closer look at some of these peculiar habits, what they mean, and how understanding them can help us support those who have been through so much—including yourself.
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1. Pausing Mid-Sentence
If you’ve endured narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself pausing mid-sentence, almost as if you’re uncertain whether what you’re saying is valid or okay. This hesitation happens because, during the abuse, you were often made to feel that your thoughts and feelings weren’t important. Psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains that narcissists distort reality, leaving you questioning yourself even in small conversations, which is why these pauses occur even when you know what you want to say. Listen closely, consciously remind yourself that your thoughts are valid, and practice expressing them confidently, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.
2. Nervous Laughter in Uncomfortable Situations
Survivors of narcissistic abuse often develop nervous laughter as a way to defuse tension in uncomfortable moments. This response acts as a defense mechanism—your brain’s way of easing discomfort. Psychologist Dr. Albert Ellis discussed how our reactions stem from deep-rooted emotions and experiences. Rather than showing fear or frustration, you may laugh, even if it feels out of place. This behavior is your mind’s attempt to protect you from discomfort. If you catch yourself doing this, cultivate self-awareness by recognizing the trigger for your laughter and practice responding with a more authentic expression, like calmly stating your discomfort or concern.
3. Repeating Phrases Nervously
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