What makes it so difficult to be around a narcissist is their devious and eccentric nature. They behave in ways that make you feel targeted and cornered as an individual because their main goal is to ensure you are never at peace. You do not feel safe in your own home, no matter where you try to hide. It feels as though their eyes and ears are always around.
Let me tell you this: you’re not paranoid. They have an unsettling habit of secretly collecting information.
If that sounds interesting and you’re eager to learn why you’re not the crazy one, please stay until the very end. I’ll provide deeper explanations to validate your experiences.
Behavior 1: Eavesdropping
The first behavior is eavesdropping. Narcissists secretly listen to your conversations to establish control and make you feel unsafe.
In my case, my father did this constantly, as did his family. It wasn’t just a bad habit—it was a fully developed personality trait. You could be having a conversation with someone in person or on the phone, and something inside you would sense that they were listening.
You’d check, and voilà, you’d catch them red-handed or see them running away. Sometimes, they wouldn’t even bother to hide. My father would look me straight in the eyes with a predatory smirk, as if to say, “Gotcha.”
Privacy didn’t exist. It felt like he was everywhere, and it left me extremely unsettled. No matter how carefully I planned, I’d always find him nearby. He somehow knew how to walk silently, which tells me this behavior ran in his family.
Instead of feeling ashamed, he’d punish me for the content of my conversations. “How dare you talk about me to so-and-so?” he’d demand. This behavior extended to every family member. Everyone was on edge, whispering, “We can’t talk about that—he might be listening.”
Eavesdropping is about control, plain and simple. Have you experienced this? Let me know in the comments.
Behavior 2: Lecturing for Hours
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