Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s both strange and painful: Five Strange Behaviors Narcissists Exhibit at Weddings. Stay until the end because I’ll share some personal experiences as well.
Narcissists and Celebrations
We all know how narcissists behave during celebrations—they ruin them for fun. Whether it’s your birthday, your anniversary, your graduation, or even a holiday, they can’t stand seeing you happy. And weddings? They’re no exception.
Let’s explore their behaviors at weddings.
Behavior 1: Stealing the Show
Narcissists have a main character syndrome. They need all the attention, even if it’s negative.
For instance, imagine a narcissistic mother-in-law who’s jealous of her son’s bride. On the wedding day, she might intentionally wear the exact same dress as the bride—an unforgivable violation of etiquette.
If the bride dares to speak up, the narcissist might cry and play the victim, saying things like:
- “I just wanted to be part of this day!”
- “I feel like an outsider.”
The son, often an enabler, might dismiss the bride’s concerns, making her feel isolated. Even if he defends her, the narcissistic mother will escalate the drama, ensuring the day is overshadowed by her antics.
Behavior 2: Creating Unnecessary Drama
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Narcissists thrive on chaos. They might refuse to attend a wedding, only to show up at the last moment after being begged repeatedly.
For example, my father would pull this stunt frequently. He would ignore invitations, refuse calls, and make everyone plead with him to attend. Once there, he’d act as though the entire event was about him, overshadowing the bride and groom.
This manipulation is deliberate. Narcissists understand the power of withholding attention and weaponize it to make themselves the center of everything.
Behavior 3: Controlling the Event
If a narcissist isn’t given full control over wedding arrangements, they’ll make you regret it.
They might demand to oversee every detail, from the guest list to the outfits, and if you resist, they could walk out in the middle of the event, leaving chaos in their wake. For them, it’s not about ensuring a smooth event—it’s about control and feeding their ego.
Behavior 4: Sabotaging as a “Helper”
Some narcissists offer to help, but their true intention is to ruin the event.
For instance, a narcissistic bridesmaid might pretend to be supportive but subtly undermine the bride. She might give bad advice, criticize decisions, or make cutting remarks to lower the bride’s confidence—all while maintaining an innocent facade.
Why? Jealousy. They can’t stand the idea of someone else being in the spotlight.
Behavior 5: Showing Up Drunk or Cheating
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This is perhaps the most shocking behavior. Narcissists might show up drunk, causing a scene, or even cheat on their partner during the wedding festivities.
I’ve seen cases where a narcissist treated their wedding day as an opportunity for infidelity. When confronted, they’d justify their actions with excuses like, “I was overwhelmed” or “It was a mistake.”
For them, it’s about the thrill of deception and the power of keeping their partner in the dark.
Conclusion
Narcissists lack empathy and will do whatever it takes to make celebrations—especially weddings—about themselves.
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