Some narcissists cheat openly for people to see, while others are experts at hiding it. The proof of what I’m saying lies in how they turn around and accuse you of being the cheater.
It doesn’t matter what you do. Maybe you buy flowers, take care of yourself, or spend a few extra minutes in the bathroom—they will twist it into “proof” that you are unfaithful, that you’re sleeping around.
It’s like living in an upside-down world, where nothing you do is innocent in their eyes, and the crimes they commit are blamed on you.
Sign 1: Spending Time Alone
Spending time alone is one of the most basic and necessary things for anyone. It gives you space to think, recharge, and connect with yourself.
But when you’re with a narcissist, your need for solitude becomes suspicious.
- Spend a little longer in the bathroom, and they’ll demand: “Why are you in there so long? Who are you texting?”
- Take an extra few minutes in the car before coming inside, and they’ll accuse: “Were you on the phone with someone else?”
In reality, you’re just preparing yourself for the torment you know awaits once you step inside.
To narcissists, time alone feels like time they can’t monitor or control. That loss of control feeds their paranoia. Instead of admitting they’re uncomfortable with your independence, they accuse you of hiding something.
Their accusations aren’t about your actions but their own insecurities. Narcissists assume everyone has ulterior motives because they project their own behavior onto others. If they can’t be alone without seeking validation elsewhere, they assume you’re the same.
Sign 2: Being Friendly with Others
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