If the narcissist truly cares about you, they will do everything it takes to get back together with you. This means picking up where you left off. They know just what to say and do to get a response from you. This tactic is the foundation of the arsenal used by all narcissists, no matter their specific flavor, in the hopes that their significant other will put the past behind them and look forward to the future. They may come bearing gifts.
The common strategy is to make you feel special by pretending that no one else matters to them as much as you do. It is a hallmark of narcissists that they are able to focus the attention of others on themselves. The narcissist doesn’t appreciate your uniqueness since they can’t see beyond their own needs, but they know how to sway you. In spite of your best efforts to cut ties with them, some narcissists may try to re-enter your life. A narcissist will come back again like a boomerang; they’ll keep reaching out like a snake until they find a way back into your life. This may be the case if they rely heavily on you as a source of supply or if they have other motives for trying to damage you. These are the two main reasons why a narcissist might want a committed relationship again.
Hoovering can be a lengthy process for narcissists since they are easily distracted by what they consider to be more fruitful avenues. However, if an outstanding candidate is not available or if there is a dearth of competent candidates, they will have no choice but to go back to their previous partner. In short, they’ll be back when it’s convenient for them. They’ll use the same strategies they used before to get back into your life and harass you further. After all, Satan won’t appear brandishing a pitchfork and horns; no, they’ll show up at your door posing as a guardian angel.
Narcissists know that if they put in the time and effort to create intimate relationships with their potential victims, they will be better prepared for future hoovers. The narcissist’s goal is to gain their trust so they may treat them like mindless servants. Long after you’ve abandoned the narcissist, their flying monkeys will continue to spread rumors about you and keep the narcissist in the loop about your movements. You should be ready to execute a no-contact policy with any friends or family members who are unwittingly working as flying monkeys for the narcissist.
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