I’ve been wrong all along about one aspect of narcissism. If I ask you what the most dangerous type of narcissist you can ever deal with is, you will likely answer, “Oh, obviously a covert narcissist.” Unfortunately, we are mistaken. The most dangerous type of narcissist is a borderline vulnerable narcissist. It dawned on me recently.
The universe has been sending people into my life—victims of this type of narcissist—again and again for me to realize that this entity is out there, roaming in the wild. Nobody talks about them because when you encounter such a person, it will take you a long time to recognize their pathology and the demonic aspect of their personality. They can appear noble and kind, and most importantly, they are very sensitive and attuned.
Understanding Covert Narcissists
Let’s lay the foundation of this episode by understanding the differences between a covert narcissist and a borderline narcissist, and then we will bring them together. A covert narcissist, as you already know, is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. They seem kind, sweet, charming, and victim-like. When you deal with them, you feel like you’ve met the most humble person in your entire life. However, their grandiosity and arrogance remain unchanged. They can be as abusive as an overt narcissist, or even more so, because they are stealthy in their approach. They bring you down, leaving you wondering, “What just happened to me?”
Borderline Vulnerable Narcissists: Empathy and Splitting
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