You tolerate their public humiliation because you think they might be in a bad mood or that it’s just a slip of the tongue. But here’s the truth: it’s deliberate, and it’s all about control. What are you going to do? Huh? Choke me? Whoa, whoa! Hey, excuse me! Stop! Stop! Narcissists don’t just want power behind closed doors; they want to break you down where everyone can see.
Today, we’ll talk about the ten reasons why narcissists humiliate their partners in front of others. Are you ready for number one?
1. To Establish Dominance
Public humiliation isn’t random; it’s a calculated move to establish dominance. Narcissists don’t just want power; they want visible power. Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist and expert on narcissistic abuse, explains that public shaming is one of the narcissist’s go-to tactics to assert control and undermine their partner’s confidence. When they insult you in public, it’s not just to insult you; it’s to prove they’re in control. They want you to second-guess yourself, feel small, and, most importantly, be too afraid to challenge them. This tactic also strengthens their image. While they tear you down, they build themselves up, positioning themselves as the strong one in the relationship. It’s a psychological trick straight out of the narcissist’s playbook: make you feel weak so they can feel superior. Over time, this wears down your self-esteem, making you more dependent on them for approval. According to Dr. Craig Malchin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, the more fragile a narcissist feels inside, the more they try to control others to feel powerful. So if a narcissist is publicly humiliating you, it’s not about you; it’s about their insecurity. The only way to break free is to stop playing their game. Because the moment you stop reacting, they lose their power.
2. To Destroy Their Partner’s Self-Worth
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