Today, we’re diving into a topic that puzzles many: why a narcissist might decide to leave their new supply and come crawling back to you.
Before we begin, it’s crucial to understand that this isn’t always about them simply wanting to cause more chaos. While narcissists can be destructive, there’s often more to their behavior than just their usual games. Let’s break it down.
The Narcissist’s Pattern
Many of us have experienced the crushing devaluation of a narcissist. We’ve felt the sting of smear campaigns, leaving our reputations tarnished and us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Friends and family who were once supportive may even question our sanity, swayed by the narcissist’s lies.
In those moments, it can feel like the world has turned against us—a suffocating, heart-wrenching experience. Yet, amidst this emotional turmoil, understanding the importance of letting go is essential. Allow the narcissist to chase after their self-destructive patterns.
Recognizing their path—often marred by inner conflict—allows us to see clearly that it’s not the road we need to walk.
Why They Come Back
After the narcissist discards you, they often seek out new sources of validation, known as “supply.” In their mind, they believe they’ve found something better—a new life full of promise. However, this illusion doesn’t last long.
Over time, they begin to re-idealize you. Despite painting you negatively to their new supply, deep down, they remember your empathy, care, and support—qualities they struggle to find elsewhere.
Their new supply may lack the emotional depth and connection you offered. This realization causes them to long for the “golden ex”—you. This longing isn’t rooted in genuine love or affection but in their self-centered desire for the validation and nurturing they once received.
The Golden Ex Syndrome
This phenomenon is known as “golden ex syndrome.” In the narcissist’s mind, you become an unattainable ideal. They compare all future relationships to the one they had with you, and inevitably, these comparisons fall short.
Though they may appear happy with their new supply, beneath the surface lies turmoil and dissatisfaction. They often mask their struggles, projecting an image of success while grappling with the reality that they’ll never find someone who matches your unique connection.
Moving Forward
As you move forward, it’s vital to close the door to the narcissist—tightly. A subscriber recently described this as a “door slam,” and it perfectly captures the need to block any potential access the narcissist might have to your life.
Remember, just because they appear to have moved on doesn’t mean they are genuinely happy. Their outward image is often a façade. Beneath it, they’re haunted by the realization that they’ve lost something special.
Hold onto this truth: you deserve relationships that value you for who you are, not for what you can provide.
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