The most dangerous thing about a covert narcissist is their ability to feign empathy. If you are in a problem, they won’t abandon you; instead, they’ll come to you with eyes showing fake care, compassion, and concern. They use different masks to make you think they are a good person, only for you to face abuse later. Initially, they seem very kind, but as time passes and devaluation begins, their true nature emerges.
How can you differentiate a covert narcissist from a true empath?
Difference #1: False Humility vs. True Humility
Covert narcissists pretend to be humble, while true empaths are genuinely humble.
A covert narcissist might say, “Oh, it’s not a big deal. I don’t think I’m special,” but deep down, they crave validation. They want you to respond with, “No, you’re amazing! You’ve done so much!” This fuels their ego and reinforces their need for external praise.
In contrast, empaths exhibit true humility. When they say, “It’s not that special,” they genuinely feel that way. They don’t seek validation or weaponize humility to gain attention.
Difference #2: Helping to Control vs. Helping to Heal
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