Pushing People to the Breaking Point
There comes a moment for every narcissist when they realize they’ve pushed someone too far—past the breaking point. When that person shuts down, it can be impactful, especially in situations like work. Narcissists often take their closest relationships, such as with family or partners, for granted and might not notice the shifts there. But when someone in their broader world, like at work, stops thinking highly of them, it activates their deep-seated shame.
The Shame Spiral
When narcissists sense that people are seeing through them and handling them cautiously, they don’t like it because it triggers their shame. Yet, they’re stuck in a catch-22 because, on some level, they know they’re unhinged. This creates a strange, frustrating loop. At this point, if you’re in a relationship with them, you may start to distance yourself emotionally and move toward indifference.
The Roadmap to Understanding
Understanding narcissism is like having a roadmap, which is why I started this channel. I want to show you all the subtle patterns so you can detect them. Think of my website as a narcissism GPS—once you see the pattern, you can make sense of it. It’s hard work breaking free from trauma bonds and other internal cycles, but once you see the truth, you start creating distance from the narcissist. They notice this shift and realize you’re no longer under their control.
The Fight for Control
The narcissist may respond with a wide range of behaviors—swinging between rage, trying to prove they’re a decent person, throwing insults, or acting passive-aggressively. Narcissistic relationships are all about control: controlling the image of the relationship, the people in it, the narrative, and their narcissistic supply. Once you understand what’s happening, they’ll try to control you even more, desperate to regain their grip. But now that you see through their tactics, they become destabilized, and their rage intensifies.
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